"My true-love hath my heart, and I have his, by just exchange, one for the other given: I hold his dear, and mine he cannot miss, there never was a better bargain driven." -- Sir Philip Sidney You are about to learn the secret recipe for the tie that binds. The ingredients and how to lovingly combine them have been protected and tenderly passed down, hand-to-hand, through the generations. Acceptance is the first ingredient. It lets your beloved know that you accept him (or her) as is, don't want to change him, don't want him to change.

You then blend in affection, knowing that "too much" applies to many things but never to affection sincerely offered. As you mix the ingredients with love and sincere good will, gentleness is the secret technique the masters have perfected and you refine in ways that convey the uniqueness of your loving touch. It's the perfect complement to being fully involved in the moment, without distraction, without reservation. You have almost got it just right, are nearing perfection; but it still needs a dash of this and a pinch of that, the special spices that bring out the rich flavor of the tie that binds. They are spontaneity and playfulness. Your loving touch is always there, only awaiting a gesture, a feeling, the slightest of signs that it's wanted and valued.

It sparkles with joy, enthusiasm, and that indescribable but familiar extra that is in a child's laughter, a lover's smile, in the connection when you share life with your beloved. Once you have mastered the recipe, your strategy is simple. You need only say to your beloved, "Treat me like I treat you.

" We both like it when things are fair so here's what you should do. Watch how I handle things, then treat me like I treat you. I get into a bad mood once in a while and you get into bad moods too. Watch how I manage my bad moods, then treat me like I treat you.

I may have a lot of things to say or I may only have a few. Watch how I listen when you talk, then treat me like I treat you. Sometimes you get mad at me and sometimes I get mad too.

Watch how I handle the angry times, then treat me like I treat you. There are things that are important to me and things I expect of you. Watch how I handle your counting on me, then treat me like I treat you. There are places I expect you to be and there are times to be there too.

Watch how I manage being places on time, then treat me like I treat you. Honesty is something that matters a lot so be sure what you tell me is true. Watch how honest I try to be, then treat me like I treat you. You make commitments so I'll know what to expect and there are things you promise to do. Watch how I handle commitments I make, then treat me like I treat you.

There are times when I am happy and there are times when I am blue. Watch how I handle your ups and downs, then treat me like I treat you. There are things I want to experience and there are things I want to do.

Watch how I support your hopes and dreams, then treat me like I treat you.

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